Sensuality and sexuality in massage ?

Lets shine some light on what other words could be the awkward elephant in the room of any massage therapist room. To just get us off to a life affirmative start I will begin by letting you know that massage is sensual. How could it not be unless you had your client in utter pain from applying full on pressure like the worst of deep tissue and sports massage the entire time. Some people do indeed believe in this type of massage experience due to " No pain no gain " memes still running around their belief system since childhood and retained as a good value to keep to earn ones way to some easier moments of pleasure perhaps. 

In the massage world that often means a couple of sore muscle days after the massage to then feel the benefits. Well I say, why not feel the enjoyment through getting the massage and straight away after the massage. However I also must warn that we also must respect peoples belief systems and if they believe strongly they need to have some pain to receive some gain, well whom are we to not deliver when after all they are paying for it and we each own two elbows. 

This attachment to the " no pain no gain " idea can also be that some people associate any sense of pleasure with the thoughts and act of sex and are afraid to allow themselves relax enough for fear that their body may do something inappropriate and out of their control that may lead to a sense of shame.  We definitely don't need anymore shame on this planet, however the porn industry does not help us out with this for many ! This is a healing time for humanity and creating a healthy relationship with ones sensuality and sexuality is so required and leads to greater joy, self love, self acceptance and fulfilment. 

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Is Sensuality in massage ? 

All jokes aside, this is a important topic that must be looked at as a massage therapist and as a general human these days. We are living in a world where these two words sensuality and sexuality can definitely get very confusing and mixed up energetically. 

​ It is so helpful to become clear within ourselves as to what they truly mean for us. Once we are clear then we can clearly communicate via our thoughts, energy, body language and words without giving mixed messages, bumping up against unresolved shameful emotions around sex and thus avoid misunderstandings or leading one in a wrong direction potentially. That one could very well be oneself due to not being clear with self and thus another. 

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As a professional holistic intuitive massage therapist in 2022+, your energy management and energy hygiene is paramount to the success of your well-being, your clients and your career / business. People are going to be booking in with you because they are most lightly feeling stressed, sore muscles and need to quite their busy minds. They require support to release tensions, relaxation and to balance mind-body-soul. In order for all this to happen with long term lasting benefits, your clients will require to feel they are safe and can unwind the tensions etc while dropping into deeper rhythmic breathing patterns. ​

If you are not grounded and centred, your clients can pick this up. Perhaps not consciously, however on a subconscious level they will. When a person is living in a lot of stress and tensions they are extra vigilant for danger. In order to let go a person must feel they are in trustworthy and safe capable hands.

Once you understand the deeper energy communications always happening and being picked up on the deeper subconscious levels, you realise they are stepping into your energy field and vice sa versa. This is not to be taken lightly and yet to be grounded and lighter within your energy field is the solution. The opportunity is to support your clients release the density of heavier energies brought about by stressful thinking and thus tensions build up in the muscles fibres and tissues and entrain to your more harmonious , clarified, grounding and clearer energy vibrations. This is why taking great self care is required to keep your own energy flowing and continue to be glowing with well-being and vitality. 

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So you may be asking at this stage what has all this got to do with sensuality and sexuality. From my awareness of energy and well-being, when our energy is flowing more freely we feel more sensual in ourselves and are connected to our creative authentic expressions. We flow with life better and are more in tune with ourselves. In this more relaxed state the body is naturally healing and the mind is more peaceful and thus the person feels better. I have a saying I share sometimes in my V.W.A massage trainings. " When your energy is flowing, you are a glow'in " and this is what we as Holistic Intuitive Massage Therapist are really supporting our clients with pn the deeper energetic levels. As Einstein stated " everything is energy" and energy cannot be destroyed, it cal only change states. We as Massage therapist are supporting our clients change states from stress and tensions build up to relaxation by unwinding the muscles and overload of thoughts with the help of working with synchronized mindful breathing. 

That means when you release muscle tensions in the body and mental tensions of stress in the mind, energy flows more un-encumbered within the body, oxygen is more easily delivered to the tissue fibres and cells and the carbon dioxide exhaled out. With the deeper breathing rhythms the body resets into the parasympathetic nervous system which communicates to all other bodily systems to organise itself for natural healing and renewal through regeneration of old cells and building of new ones, rebalancing hormones etc.

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What about sexuality ? 

Well lets take this one head on and simply say this is when there is a deeper sexual attraction between two people that has the potential through agreed conscious consent of both people to allow it to develop into sex and love making. 

Now the tricky thing can be clarifying what is agreed conscious consent. This can be done via verbal communications. However it still must be acknowledged that so much communication is happening on a deeper energetic level and being picked up by the subconscious and thus the body responds to the stimuli of feelings and thoughts of attraction and the growing desire to come together.

Again this is why I am passionate about promoting energy management within my training program of holistic intuitive massage through ongoing and deepening personal growth to support the practice of taking greater self responsibility for your thoughts, feelings and energy communications.

Another way of saying all this is choosing more consciously your vibrational frequency that you are transmitting and also accepting into your energy field. This is the new consciousness and new paradigm of conscious thinkers. When we really embrace this way of BEing, we can go beyond falling into a lower consciousness field that may result in feeling like a victim of another person or on the flip side playing the power dynamic and manipulating someones else's energy to boost our own ego due to our own deeper insecurity and not trusting that all your needs will be met naturally and in perfect divine timing. 

What if instead you felt and believed that I am worthy to create and receive the life, business and relationships I truly desire and love. The universe responds to your energy vibrations that is emanating via every thoughts, words, beliefs and actions. Bringing the unconscious ones into the light is what is required. To make these conscious all you have to do is look at what is not working out for you in your life and dig deeper to uncover what are the thoughts and beliefs and unresolved emotions I hold around this topic or theme in my life and where am I willing to change ? 

" I easily adapt to new experiences, I am willing to change and surrender to my good "

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Shift of consciousness~into the new paradigm.

As we awaken more and more to a higher consciousness, the language of energy is central to how we conduct our life's and offer clear communications style to oneself and one another. This in turn will release the need for much misunderstandings and confusion.

I share in my trainings " what use to be the pain and bane of my life is now the gift and sane ".

What I mean by this statement is that to be a energy sensitive emphatic in the harsh older consciousness was intense and confusing. Most people denied their emotional body and acknowledged nor embraced little emotional intelligence and value.

Nowadays in this newer energy and consciousness on planet earth, more and more people are becoming more sensitive to energy and emotions. The younger children and generation demand the older ones to be more emotionally open and interested as they present the challenges of living in denial of emotions and energy for 100 and 1000's of years. The results of dumbing down this feeling body in favour of the intellectual left brain approach to life and thinking ones way through rather than feeling one ways true. 

Allow the egoic mind to be the humble servant and student of the heart. Allow the heart to guide your caring connected hands and allow your energy field to be a conduit for transmitting light and love.

​" Where ever you go, there you are ". ​

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Namaste caring heart,
Written by : Mary Jo Halligan 

On my trainings I encourage a student mind. In Yoga the term Namaste honours both the student and master within each person. I translate this as the Ego that is the Student mind that is willing to stay open and listen and be guided by the heart and higher self mastery. This higher self has a bigger vision of whom you are and your souls alignment and can guide you best from moment to moment if you will allow. Especially into new unknown as of yet experiences. 

" I know nothings ( releasing the ego and pressures to know ) and I have access to ALL KNOWING field of awareness. " The journey is unlearning what is unhelpful and embracing what supports personal empowerment, harmony and alignment of body mind soul and trusting your heart and life again to guide you joyfully, gracefully and abundantly sacred breath by breath. 

My next Professional 50hr Holistic Intuitive Massage Training Retreat begins November 24th - 29th 2024 
​More information LINK HERE 

In 2024 we are launching our massage training to be also available on line and accessible from the comfort of your own home. All you need is to find another massage curious and enthusiastic buddies to take the training with plus a massage table to practice on. 

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